Please tell me I'm not the only mommy for whom this concept is a cruel dictator. As I write this my 3-month-old is writhing and grinding his gums in frustration in my ego on my back. I know, nice mommies don't put such young babies on their backs. I just thought I'd try because he hates the front and I desperately need to do some work around the house, and nothing else is satisfying him right now. My back is killing me. Nice mommies don't mind back pain.
He's overtired because he hasn't had a good nap today because all the nursing and rocking and soothing that nice mommies do is only effective in getting him to sleep, at best, but won't keep him asleep. Nice mommies sit in a rocker and soothe their babies as long as they need for their babies to get a full nap, apparently.
Nice mommies don't worry about the dishes. Their families can eat on styrofoam if they need to. Nice mommies don't cook--their families can live off fishie crackers. Nice mommies don't clean--someone might need those fishy crackers under the couch while the nice mommy is sitting in the rocker. Nice mommies don't do laundry--who says clothes need to be clean to be useful? Nice mommies don't have guests and don't exercise and, of course, they don't sleep! Nice mommies don't fix their hair or shower or brush their teeth--that would be awfully selfish!
Nice mommies wouldn't dream of letting their babies cry themselves to sleep. That is nothing short of barbaric! Nice mommies sleep with their babies and/or respond to every whimper immediately. Nice mommies do this until their children grow out of this need, anywhere between 3 and 10 years of age, or they spend every evening for 6 weeks gently soothing their babies to sleep following a very specific sleep plan to teach their babies to sleep alone. If a woman doesn't have time to do this, she shouldn't be a mom. If she is already a mom and she doesn't have time for this, she should flagellate herself until she bleeds.
OR perhaps nice mommies aren't really nice at all, they just have nice babies. Babies who entertain themselves and sleep well. Babies who are forgiving and gracious. Mommies with nice babies write books for mommies without normal babies. So mommies with normal babies can feel like terrible horrible evil mommies when they come up against their inability to appease their normal babies any longer.
Or maybe it's the babies writing the books. Or maybe it's Satan.